Why are you upset?
-Reason: Because I’m sick, because I’m divorced, because I don’t have a job, because the kids give me a hard time
-Real reason: because I’m not patient
وَبَشِّرِ الصَّابِرِينَ – البقرة 155
(And give gladtidings to the patient ones)
〰️ Why are you worried?
-Reason: because I think a lot and have to make important decisions
-Real reason: because I don’t recite Qur’an
يا أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ قَدْ جَاءكُم بُرْهَانٌ مِّن رَّبِّكُمْ وَأَنزَلْنَا إِلَيْكُمْ نُوراً مُّبِيناً -النساء, 174
(O mankind, there has come to you a conclusive proof from your Lord, and We have sent down to you a clear light)
〰️ Why are you sad?
-Reason: Because I have family problems
-Real reason: because I’m not accepting the reality of this life
أحسب الناس أن يتركوا أن يقولوا آمنا وهم لا يفتنون
(Do the people think that they will be left to say, “We believe” and they will not be tested?)
〰️ Why are you stressed?
-Reason: Because I’m on the run and busy from morning till night
-Real reason: because I don’t do my athkar
وَمَنْ أَعْرَضَ عَن ذِكْرِي فَإِنَّ لَهُ مَعِيشَةً ضَنكًا
– 124، طه
(And whoever turns away from My remembrance – indeed, he will have a depressed life)
〰️ Why are you not successful?
-Reason: Because I don’t have x and y (money, position, person, etc)
-Real reason: because I practice my salah as a “to do” ritual; instead of a source of connection to the Source of Success and contentment.
قَدْ أَفْلَحَ الْمُؤْمِنُونَ * الَّذِينَ هُمْ فِي صَلَاتِهِمْ خَاشِعُونَ -المؤمنون
(Certainly will the believers have succeeded: They who are during their prayer humbly submissive)
We have our own stories and reasons for why we experience certain feelings and states… these reasons we tell ourselves are valid and need to be addressed with the right help and support without a doubt…
But in reality, they are not the real reasons for why we experience these emotions… Evidence > the same two people can go through the exact same event and experience an entirely different outcome, feeling and meaning… the above “real reasons” are not the only reasons, they are examples and ideas… to invite one to reflect on the deeper and other reasons for a real change, for a change…
Again; this is not to undermine or underestimate our problems or discourage anyone from taking action (through acquiring the help need from this world); but to encourage us to look within for a more holistic approach of dealing with our issues… which in every problem takes into an account the fact that we are spiritual beings, with a soul, that requires the connection with Allah (swt) first and foremost…